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Prevention Events Coming in August

by Cindy Dalton, Public Relations Specialist 

Every summer, the LUK Prevention Team puts on two great events for the community: National Night Out and the Common Ground Basketball Tournament and Community Event.

This year, National Night Out will be held at Monument Park in Gardner on Tuesday, August 1st. The Gardner Community Action Team (GCAT) organizes this annual event, with community-building and the promotion of good relationships between community members and law enforcement at the forefront. The evening will include live music, kids' games, information tables, face painting, and a competition among local pizza restaurants for the title of "favorite pizza." The flashlight walk is a fun activity for children and their parents. This educational walk is sponsored by MOC and Healthy Families, and uses a story to tell children about how police and firefighters help the community. 

On Saturday, August 12th, the 19th Annual Common Ground Basketball Tournament and Community event will be held at Green Street Park in Fitchburg. In addition to the tournament, the event will include a cookout, kids' activities, and information tables. This event has its roots in violence prevention and uses sports as a means toward supporting youth in the community and having conversations about healthy choices. 

We hope you’ll join us for these great events! 

For more information about National Night Out, please email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or call 800-579-0000.

For more information about Common Ground, please email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or call 800-579-0000. 

For general prevention information, please visit www.LUK.org/Prevention or follow the LUK Prevention Facebook page. 

 

 

Pride Month

As Pride month closes, retired LUK employee José Rivera reflects on the history and what Pride means to him.

In June of 2000, Bill Clinton declared June, “Gay and Lesbian Pride Month.” The month was chosen to remember a riot in 1969 at the Stonewall Inn in Manhattan that, to many of us, is the beginning of the gay liberation movement in the United States.

The movement, now celebrated around the word, has three main premises: that people should be proud of their sexual orientation and gender identity, that sexual diversity is a gift, and that sexual orientation and gender identity are inherent and cannot be intentionally altered. It is a celebration of self-affirmation, dignity, equality, visibility, community, and the beauty and power of diversity – life aspects that are easily taken for granted by many for whom these have been gifted without questions, challenges or struggles. Yet, 48 years after the Stonewall riots, the very being of many LGBTQ individuals is still being questioned and challenged; many still struggle to be.

For 35+ years, I had the privilege and joy of working at LUK – where I found countless allies which made my journey immeasurably easier than what many of my brothers and sisters experience. If I may, I would like to share with you some of these gifts so that, as Gay Pride Month comes to an end, those of you who are so moved can begin (or continue) a lifetime of making this world a better place to be for our LGBT brothers and sisters, fathers and mothers, spouses, friends, coworkers, friends, neighbors… (you get the picture: we are always beside you).

  • Having a meaningful dialogue with my supervisor (thanks Dave) about what it meant to be out to my clients.
  • Wearing and seeing pride items, like a rainbow flag, a pin (the wife of our then-Mayor wore one that said “STRAIGHT BUT NOT NARROW”), a “Safe Zone” sticker, etc. They all go a long way in signaling the presence of allies and telling us that we are not invisible, that we are not alone, that we are safe, that we are valued. (Please remember that wherever we are and whomever we are with, there are probably LGBT individuals whose life could be greatly enhanced by an ally.)
  • Hearing someone speaking up to challenge inappropriate jokes or comments, even if they “knew” the offending party meant no harm.
  • When coming out to my peers, they did not respond with “I always knew” or “I thought so” (unwittingly, these phrases tend to devalue the effort and courage it takes to come out). Instead, allies responded with appreciation that I considered them a safe and welcoming individual to come out to. (For some, especially youth, it might be helpful to ask whom else they are or want to be out to, as an ally can be extremely helpful in making this a safe and positive experience.)
  • Having people wanting to hear more about me and my life. The only “expert” on my life is me and having folks be humble enough to recognize this is a precious gift.

This year’s theme is “Viva la Vida” (a celebration of life), not “Viva el Mes” (a month’s celebration). So (again, if you are so moved), please help us celebrate who we are, not just in June 2017 but always.

 

 

An Interview with a LUK Foster Parent

 

By Michele Morrissey, Director of Community Placement Services

People who are wondering about entering fostering tend not to ask the questions they really want to know. They usually vague questions such as; "What's it like?'  The following is an interview between two experienced LUK foster parents.

Q: Is fostering worth doing?
A: All life's big things; love, marriage, children, family, and work, are what you make them. Being a foster parent has its challenges, I'll be quite honest about that, but on the whole it's fantastic otherwise we wouldn’t still be doing it.  In fact, for me, it's the best thing I've ever done.

Q: Is becoming licensed difficult?
A: It takes time. After you've phoned or emailed LUK, and say:  "I'm interested in becoming a foster parent" someone will visit you in your home and talk about what it means to foster a child and what to expect from the licensing process. They're making an early quick-fire assessment. Some people aren't right for it; maybe their home isn't right, might be their situation, (e.g. free-roaming pet snakes, the only spare bedroom being the utility room next to the washing machine....)
I don't know what percentage fail at the first hurdle, but no one's time is wasted. There follows a period of six to twelve months where you get regular visits at home from a specialist whose job it is to go through all your circumstances. I've been through this twice, found it fun and helped me focus. They dig into your whole life. They're not looking for perfect angels, those people don't exist. They are interested in how you've dealt with the different difficulties we all face in life.

Q: Do you have any say in which children are placed with you?
A: Definitely. Even before you're approved your Family Resource Worker (FRS) will be working with you on what sort of child your ideal placements will be. Some people are better suited to teenagers. Some will prefer younger kids or infants. A lot depends on the shape of your family, especially if you have children of your own. Some foster families are initially cautious about children who've had their troubles. Some are worried about being thrown in at the deep end, so they opt for respite (you get a child to foster from Friday afternoon to the next Sunday evening or maybe for a week).

Q: Are you on your own?
A: No! Each foster family has their own designated FRS whose job is to help, advise and support the foster parent.  Mine visit at least once per month, for a whole morning. They are always there at the end of the phone. Plus I attend monthly trainings, which offer me an opportunity to discuss and bond with other foster parents. Your foster child has their own designated Case Manager who also visits weekly and works with your own FRS to keep things on track. Frankly, in all my years and so many different jobs, I've never felt better supported.

Q: What kind of person are you? What are some of your personality traits?

A: Faith is by far the strongest tool I have to work with. From faith comes the patience required to truly understand what is really going on in a challenging situation. Faith provides the assurance that God will never thrust you into a situation that you cannot handle if you seek and follow His guidance. From faith sprouts consistency; including the ability to embrace change and adapt to new situations. Each child is special and has unique needs. One wants to be hugged; the other fears any physical contact. Foster children yearn for consistency in their traumatized lives. I have to work at listening. I cannot help a child with his problem unless I truly understand that problem as he sees it. Too often I catch myself trying to fit a “standard solution” to the wrong problem i.e. not the problem that the child perceives.

Q: What happens if things aren't working out?
A: Good question. You know, I sometimes wonder if they ever seem to be working as I'd like! But if you are having frustrations that's when you pick up the phone for support.  And of it gets too much for you; you can always end the placement, but that is a last resort.  LUK offers trainings monthly and helps with getting additional supports so you don’t have to disrupt a child’s placement, but sometimes it is unavoidable.

Q: If I end a placement, will that be the end of my fostering career?
A: No, (unless that's what you want). LUK needs all the foster parents they can get. Your qualifications and credentials are valuable; it's up to the system to play to your strengths. I found that things got easier the more fostering I did, I got familiar with the stresses and strains and learned better to identify the joys.

Q: How does the payment work?
A: Fostering is a profession. We are all professional parents.  Our bi-weekly payment is termed a stipend, as we are reimbursed for the costs associated with providing for a child in our home.  You are reimbursed daily when a child lives in your home.  It is tax-free and not deemed an income.  I am reimbursed a rate every day  per child.  That money covers their room and board, food, transportation, recreations such as dance lessons or karate and all other costs associated with taking care of a child.  The children do get clothing allowances on top of that.  LUK also helps out with the costs associated for family vacations, summer camps and special requests that would go above and beyond everyday care.

Q: Is there anything else I should know?
A: Sweet Jesus, yes! The bulk of it is stuff you have to find it out for yourself as you go along, and so you do. Each child is so utterly unique you have to make tailored arrangements to help their specific needs, and that means making your fostering up as you go along. There's paperwork; not much. There's monthly trainings, and social events. But mostly you're just finding out how to be a good mum or dad to a particular poor lonely child who's done nothing wrong to end up sad, worried and frightened.

There is no ideal profile of a foster parent.  The demographics are broad and include single adults or coupled partners. You may be single or married; own or rent your home; but you must pass a criminal back ground check and a safety check of your home.  There are many conversations and interviews held with prospective foster parents to ensure a good fit.

In other words, foster parents don’t have to come with a super-hero cape, but they might earn one over time. We recruit people who have a gift for working with children, who have a passion for wanting to develop the best in children but also realize that there’s not a lot of glamour and glory in foster care. Being a parent is one of the toughest jobs in the world.

 

We call on all of you to join us in becoming one of the faces of Foster Care and to change a lifetime of a child or youth in foster care.  No matter who you are or how much time you have to give, you can help create permanent, lifelong connections for these children and youth.  For more information, please call us at 800-579-0000 or find more information at www.LUK.org/FosterCare.


Day in the Park & 5K - June 25, 2017!

by Cindy Dalton, Public Relations Specialist

It’s time again for LUK’s Day in the Park and “Corduroy King” 5K!

The Day in the Park is a fun, free family event at Lake Quinsigamond Park in Worcester which features music, a bounce house, information tables, activities, and a cookout for lunch! This is a great day for families to enjoy the outdoors and learn a bit about the services available in their communities. As usual, we will have information around mental health awareness and foster care appreciation.

The “Corduroy King” 5K is a flat course accessible to runners and walkers of all abilities. All funds raised benefit the David “Corduroy King” Kilcoyne scholarship, which allows at-risk youth to attend a therapeutic, adventure-based camp through LUK’s TREK program.

Dave Kilcoyne was one of the original TREK staff, starting in 2006. Dave was an original – he was the king of corduroy and a lover of adventure. Dave loved kids, and kids loved him back. A few years ago Dave solo hiked for a summer along the Appalachian Trail, and talked about writing a book about his experiences in the woods. In the summer of 2013 Dave pledged to hike 600 miles in 60 days to raise funds for the TREK program – just him and his new tent in the outdoors.

Unfortunately, Dave’s adventure ended early when he left the trail to come home and care for his ailing Dad. Shortly after his Dad passed, Dave also took a different trail and left us as well. All who knew him miss his laugh, humor, giant smile, and even bigger heart. With the scholarships, we hope to honor his memory and help youth fall in love with adventure.

You can register online through Wednesday, June 21st at Give.Classy.org/LUK5K.

You can register the day of the event with cash or check.

 

 

National Volunteer Week 2017

by Hilary Amedy, Mentoring Program Coordinator

Have you ever wished that you could say “thank you” to someone who has performed a service to our community?  You have that opportunity during National Volunteer Week, which takes place April 23-29 this year.  Volunteers are one of our country’s most important assets and programs like the LUK Mentoring Program are volunteer driven. We would not exist if it we didn’t have the dedicated volunteers that we have.

National Volunteer Week began in 1974 when President Nixon signed an executive order establishing the week as an annual celebration of volunteering.  Since then, every U.S. President has signed a proclamation promoting National Volunteer Week, which has grown each year with thousands of volunteer projects and special events scheduled throughout the week. National Volunteer Week is an opportunity to recognize and thank volunteers who lend their time, talent, voice and support to causes they care about in their community.

Volunteers reach out beyond themselves, to engage in kindness and caring for others. People from all walks of life engage in volunteerism for a variety of reasons. Recently, a volunteer who applied to be a mentor with the LUK Mentoring Program stated that her reason for wanting to volunteer is that she loves working with young people; that she had a lot of help in her life and wants to give back. Another volunteer said she just wants to give back and hopes she will be someone a youth will be comfortable talking with; one felt she had positive role models in her life and she will feel good about being there for someone who needs some extra support; another has liked coaching sports in the past but wants to be able to focus on being there for one youngster; and one young man had a mentor when he was growing up and knows first-hand what a difference it made in his life.

The LUK Mentoring Program has incredible volunteers who spend time mentoring, serve on the Mentoring Advisory Board and help with fundraising events like the Kids at Heart Mentoring Gala. When we asked Kelly J. why she became a mentor she stated, “1 hour a week is a small commitment when the bigger picture is the lifelong impact you will make on a child.” Domenic Z responded, “Just to see the pure joy on your mentee’s face when you go to pick him up and hear him reminisce about time that you spend together, times you thought were so normal but to him were phenomenal and John M says, “Anyone interested in joining a non-profit board should take a good look at LUK Mentoring,” and if they are interested, he recommends becoming a mentor too as he believes they go hand-in-hand and make him a more informed and vested board member.

According to the latest Volunteering and Civic Life in America report from the Corporation for National and Community Service, 62.6 million people in the United States volunteered in 2015, collectively donating 7.8 billion hours of their time to their communities – an estimated $184 billion worth of service. Volunteers in the LUK Mentoring Program donated approximately 3,648 hours of time last year through 1:1 mentoring, serving on the Mentoring Advisory Board and towards fundraising events.

Please take a moment to recognize the volunteers who make our community a better place and go to www.facebook.com/lukmentoring where we are highlighting our generous mentors and volunteers.

If you would like to be a LUK Mentor, serve on the Mentoring Advisory Board or help with our fundraising efforts go to www.luk.org/mentoring or call 1-800-579-0000 and ask for Mentoring staff. 

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